Most people guess incorrectly about the best way to reach out in empathy to others. Yet identifying with others is one of the chief means we gain likeability, one of the Seven Influence Traits®. Of course we don’t empathize with others merely to increase a score; however, having people understand we are emotionally in their corner does help us lead them.
What Is Empathy?
The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner - Merriam Webster
Which Road to Empathy?
Research suggests that a process of systematic reasoning outperforms gut instinct for understanding what other people are thinking and feeling. This counters our own self-perception that gut instinct would be the best means to empathize.
When you’re accountable to no one, it’s very easy to listen to your gut instincts and do what they are telling you. It becomes an entirely different situation when you have to explain your intuition to your employees or your bosses.
You’re hard wired to do what’s best for you in most situations; all you need to do is learn to follow your gut instincts. Animals do it day in and day out and it works fairly well for them. They do what comes naturally and typically they do more than stay alive; they thrive!
We were given a gift of intuition and we should rely on it more often. Ignoring it can often lead to very bad results!
I find people still don’t trust their gut when it comes to making good business decisions. I understand that there’s a lot riding on some of the decisions you make and sometimes saying you “just went with your gut” isn’t enough to satisfy a Board of Directors. But at some point, you really have to pull the trigger and say, “Yes, I feel that this is right.” Here's how to do it...
One of the things you’re probably going to have to teach your employees is how to hone, listen to, trust and communicate their intuition. Do you know how?
5 ways to approach an anxiety-producing scenario with courage instead of fear.
A sixth sense or a keen intuition is a skill that we have that’s innate and only needs to be recognized for it to become one of the most valuable tools in our arsenal. So what happens if you aren’t really accustomed to listening to your intuition or you feel like you’ve sort of become derailed and your intuition doesn’t make any sense to you anymore? Well, that’s when practice makes perfect. Start asking yourself these questions in order to analyze your gut and better learn to follow your natural instincts.
While, in general, the glass ceiling exists in the workplace, I think that should never stop women from trying to get ahead at work.