Karen Keller
What business do negative people have in your life? Why are they there in the first place? Because you let them hang around. Could it be you hang around them?
What happens when you are surrounded by even just one negative Nellie? Your whole day, attitude, perspective, and direction changes - for the worse. Before you know it there's a pattern that goes like this; "I know she's negative but she has some good qualities, too." Then; "I can fix her negativity." Next; "She really isn't THAT negative." Lastly; "What? She's negative? I didn't notice."
See what's happening? You are caught in a trap that soon becomes your story. Picture the rat on the wheel in the cage. Well, guess what? You are the rat. Yuck!
Allowing, keeping and listening to negative people is the worst thing you can do. I speak from personal experience - decades ago! The negative person is childish at heart, low maturity level.
When they fail to get what they want they resort to negativity.
What do negative people sound like? Here's what they say to and about themselves:
- It's just no use!
- It's going to be another one of those days!
- Nothing ever works out for me - it's just my luck.
- I have absolutely no talent.
- Nobody likes me - I am such an idiot.
- I get sick just thinking about that.
- I don't have the energy I used to.
- I never know what to say.
- Nobody wants to pay me what I'm worth.
- I already know I am not going to enjoy that.
- If only I were taller, (thinner, prettier, stronger, smarter...etc)
Here's what they say to you:
- That won't work.
- I thought you said you could do it?
- You don't know what you're doing.
- I told you so.
- I can't believe you did that.
- You shouldn't have done that.
- It's hopeless.
- Nobody really wants to help you.
- I think you should know . . .
- Why do you even bother?
When we hear information the brain decides if it's true or not. Simple. Easy, right? Not always. When we hear negative statements the brain decides not only if it is true or not but we begin to try understanding what the statement means.
Our brains spend more time on the negative statements than the positive ones. Sorting, ciphering, explaining, and choosing. This all happens before we act on what we heard.
A woman’s process is different than men's because of emotions. Women consider all angles. Women are caretakers. Women give second, third and fourth chances (even when it isn't good for them).
Women entertain who will be hurt. They are conditioned to believe their gut reaction is off base. They question their strongest asset - their intuition.
Negative thinking, words and behaviors cripple our mind and spirit. It shapes our mental makeup. Here's where you have a choice to make. Will you allow any negative person to be in your presence who complains, criticizes or nags constantly at every turn? Begin by taking small steps. That negative person can even be your best friend (or former best friend), your brother or sister or even your spouse. These can be extremely tough decisions.
Can you remove all negative people from your life? Yes.
